Is Having a Tight Vagina a Good Thing?
by Courtney Virden
So many women say they want a tight vagina, but is it optimal? Do men like tight vaginas?
There is so much to cover, so let's dive in, and first, let's talk about our vaginas during sex. That feeling of tightness in the vagina is often from the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the pelvic organs. An overly tight vagina is also known as a hypertonic pelvic floor. When women orgasm, they experience rhythmic contractions in the pelvic floor muscles. The stronger and more responsive those muscles are, the stronger and more intense the orgasms can become.
Women with a hypertonic or overly tight pelvic floor often experience pain with penetration and sometimes throughout intercourse. If the vaginal muscles are too tight penetrative sex is too painful. To experience stronger orgasms, it is vital to have strength in the pelvic floor but also appropriate tone, elasticity, and responsiveness. If your pelvic floor is strong and responsive, your vagina feels better for you and your partner during intercourse. When it comes to sex, vaginal tightness is not ideal.
How else might a tight vagina impact you?
Besides sexual intercourse and orgasm quality, what else might a tight vagina mean for you? An overactive pelvic floor usually means experiencing one or more symptoms of pelvic floor dysfunction. What is especially interesting is that some symptoms of a hypertonic pelvic floor are the same symptoms of one that is too stretched and relaxed. Symptoms like urinary incontinence are common whether your pelvic floor is too tight and rigid or too lax. Bladder and bowel issues are common with a loose or hypertonic pelvic floor. Tailbone pain (coccyx pain), low back and hip pain, constipation, and even vaginal dryness (less natural lubrication usually irritates the vaginal tissue) are also common with an overly tight vagina. Meanwhile, others may experience trouble orgasming, painful intercourse, or other medical conditions.
One easy way for many to understand why a tight vagina isn't great is to imagine the hamstring muscles. Most know that while you want strong hamstrings, if the muscles are tight, it can lead to an increased risk of injury. Tight hamstrings are also uncomfortable and often lead to other issues throughout your body (such as pack pain). Overly tight means they aren't functioning well, tight doesn't mean strong. Now apply those same thoughts to the pelvic floor. Does having a tight vagina seem like it would optimize the pelvic floor and how it functions? A women's pelvic floor function is critical to feeling her best. Not only her sexual enjoyment but her movement and body throughout the day.
What some people think they need to do
Many people think doing Kegel exercises multiple times a day thinking it will strengthen their pelvic floor. In reality, does it solve their problems? For some women, yes, but for far more, it doesn't, and they are left feeling defeated and confused. Women with an overly tight pelvic floor who do Kegels can worsen the problem. Kegel's are concentric contractions and will make an already tight pelvic floor even tighter. Often women have some muscles of the pelvic floor too tight and rigid and other muscles overstretched, and Kegels can make their problems worse too. Pelvic floor disorders and dysfunction are common and impact far too many women throughout their life.
Not doing anything isn't going to work either. Ignoring pelvic floor dysfunction eventually worsens it and can lead to other issues. What about seeing an in-person pelvic floor physical therapist? While this can be beneficial and even needed by some, it isn't necessary for many. For some, the thought makes them uncomfortable, is too time-consuming, or is expensive. So if you want to see an in-person physical therapist go for it; if you don't, there are options for you instead of seeing a therapist. Some women even turn to surgery first, while some need it; many issues can be resolved by seeing a therapist or even on your own with the right online pelvic floor program.
Most effective solutions
But there is hope for women! Most women of any age and fitness level n do pelvic floor therapy programs at home. There are 14 muscles in a woman's pelvic floor, and they move in multiple directions. It is essential to do exercises that focus on all planes of movement and contain both eccentric and concentric contractions. This will ensure an appropriate balance of strength and responsiveness (for those intense orgasms and more), responsiveness.
Pelvic health is so vital for women of all stages of life. Issues arise for many within the different stages many women go through. Many changes women experience these changes with menstruation, pregnancy and childbirth, aging, and pre and post-menopause. All of these can significantly impact our pelvic floor, impacting our quality of life.
Get A Strong, Toned, and Responsive Vagina
My online pelvic floor therapy at home programs will help you if you are having issues and for those without as a preventative measure while at the same time benefiting from better sex and improved posture. Instead of striving for a tight vagina, the goal should be a healthy, strong, toned, and responsive vagina—for your entire body and your sex life, too!