The Best Position for Vaginal Orgasms (for Most Women)

by Courtney Virden

How to Have Vaginal Orgasms for Women
As a mom of two and a pelvic floor specialist, I talk to more women about sex than most. What do I commonly hear? Women are quite often not having the sex life, and orgasms, they wish. Common things I hear are women not feeling engaged with their partner, they would rather “get it over with”. Others just go through the motions, are not sexually aroused, and others are having decreased sensations. While many women even avoid sex altogether. One of the things I hear most often is women saying they cannot achieve orgasm without clitoral stimulation, whether from a parter or solo with a vibrator. Vaginal orgasms remain something many women have never experienced yet. Plus there are a great number of women who are not able to orgasm at all.The types of orgasms women typically are wanting the bedroom are clitoral orgasms and the often elusive G-spot orgasm. Clitoral orgasms are from external stimulation and G-spot orgasms are from internal stimulation. While clitoral orgasms are amazing, G-spot orgasms are a different kind of incredible orgasmic contractions, and many women who aren't having them can be. G-spot stimulation can not only lead to vaginal orgasms but you also becoming one of the multi orgasmic woman. G-spot orgasms can be had alone or in conjunction with clitoral stimulation.

The Muscles Around the Vagina Are Key

Pelvic floor muscles are a key component to achieving internal orgasms. Your emotions, beliefs, and past traumas can all play a part as well. However, a female orgasm, and multiple orgasms, are possible because of the muscles of the pelvic floor. Pelvic floor and sex are intertwined for women and even men. For a women, our pelvic floor are the muscles that support the pelvic organs and are used for all of our daily movements. Far too many women, at least 1 in 4, have some type of pelvic floor dysfunction. Whether that is pelvic pain, bladder leakage, painful intercourse, low back pain, or other symptoms, it can greatly affect a women's life and her sex life.

When women orgasm the strength and tone of their pelvic floor can help those orgasms feel more powerful and pleasurable. During orgasm a women's pelvic floor has rhythmic contractions of tension and relaxation. The stronger, more toned, and elastic a women's pelvic floor is the more powerful her orgasms can be. Yet keep in mind a tight pelvic floor is not a good thing. Sex and a tight pelvic floor often means the women will be experiencing issues. Such as painful intercourse or difficulty achieving orgasm plus possible other pelvic floor dysfunction symptoms, even bladder leakage being one.

How to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor for Sex

Training with Pelvic floor programs can help restore and improve the strength and elasticity of your pelvic floor. For women wanting to achieve internal orgasms pelvic floor exercises can significantly help. A good pelvic floor exercise program can even take the place of pelvic floor physical therapy for many women. So if your pelvic floor is too loose and overstretched, you have a tight pelvic floor (hypertonic), or a combination, pelvic floor programs can help you restore optimal pelvic floor health.

Even if you don't have pelvic floor dysfunction pelvic floor exercises can help you improve sexual sensations and increase comfortability in the bedroom. A pelvic floor with strength (in multiple planes of movement), responsiveness, and the ability to relax can help you get powerful vaginal orgasmic contractions to get those mind blowing orgasms internally, as well as external. Now that we have discussed the importance of your pelvic floor, lets get started with the best positions for female orgasms!

Best Sex Positions for Vaginal Orgasms

Woman on top is by the the easiest way for most women to have an internal pelvic floor orgasm. The best orgasms positions allow a women's nerve pathways to be most open and this position allows for that. Doggy style is another position many women find they experience internal orgasms with. But woman on top is how so many woman achieve their first, hopefully of many more to come, internal orgasms from intercourse.

Being on top can leave a woman feeling vulnerable and are not comfortable with it. Remember, most partners are wanting to learn sex position to make you orgasm, and want you to feel comfortable and experience pleasure. This position also has other key erogenous zones in easy access for your parter to help push you towards orgasm. You can be on top with the light off to get comfortable or turn them on if you want. Either way this position is so key for most women to experience internal organs and learn how to have them.

How to Have A Vaginal Orgasm (for most women)

Lots of men love an up and down motion yet for many women that does't lead them to orgasm. Instead, hope on top when your partner is laying down, and either face your partner or turn away(reverse cowgirl). Moving as described below will hep your energy and stamina while stimulating your G-spot to help get you those vaginal orgasms.

The BEST move to help you achieve internal orgasms is the front-to-back pelvic tilt (see video). Using that motion—sitting tall on top of your partner instead of a stability ball—stimulates the front of your vaginal wall and the internal structure of your clitoris, which can help push you over the edge into those deep internal orgasms you’ve been wanting to have. Stay relaxed and keep doing the pelvic tilts, focusing on going from neutral to a front pelvic tilt. Take your time, there is no rush! This should be pleasurable, not stressful. Once you have one orgasm, keep going—more could be just around the corner. You can also try adding mild clitoral stimulation to enhance your arousal as you feel your way through the process.

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